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Snap out of it.....
How many times have we heard people mutter those words
when dealing with emotional turbulence?
Kind of diminishes the importance of your feelings,
suppresses the natural course.
Reminds me of those times as a child when my bladder was
suddenly full, and I was told to ‘just hold it until....”
We’re so often programmed to conform to the expectations of others, who were probably also following that same program.
So who are we really pleasing, anyway?
Be patient with yourself and accept who you are.
That’s more important than conforming for another. ❀
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“The best way out is always through.” Robert Frost
We all face challenges that test our limits of power.
Sometimes, the first reaction is one of avoidance
or problem resolution at any cost.
There’s a process to problem resolution that involves 3 basic steps.
1. Recognition of patterns that lead up to the problem
or the nuts and bolts of the problem.
2. Dismantle the patterns
what are the details?
start to gather all the threads so you can unravel the pattern.
3. Replace old patterns with meaningful ones.
Look at ‘how’ you are, then at ‘why’ you are how you are.
To truly evolve/grow and learn lessons to be proactive,
we must do this internal work.
Don’t jump stages, or skip steps to any process
in an attempt to resolve something.
The best way out of anything, is to go through it. ❀
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Story of We
When we give ourselves to others in bits and pieces, keeping score of
whose turn it is to give next,
we are actually shutting down both sides of love.
Keeping score and love have nothing to do with each other.
“I said I’m sorry first the last time - it’s your turn now.”
Scorekeeping comes from scarcity and fear.
What if you asked yourself the question - What if.......
What happens if you give all of yourself?
How can I give more, love more?
Just because you give and some one doesn’t give equally,
doesn’t mean you wasted anything.
Think of two clams.
One clam opens up and gives all it has to offer.
The second clam then opens up a bit and takes it in.
The first clam then closes, it’s already opened up fully -
it’s the other clam’s turn now.
The second clam senses the closed clam.
And responds in like.
Relationships are nurtured by giving, not negotiation. ❀
